Thursday, June 19, 2008
Blog Entry6
I see the concept of relationship-based motivation from chapter 7 in my cousin’s relationship with her husband. She is the type of a woman who doesn’t want to raise issues that has been “resolved.” Some times her husband hurts her feelings, or even does some things that she doesn’t even know. But from a woman’s perspective, she does deserve to know. One day, he went buying a new car to his dad without letting her know it first. I think she did have the right to know this because they share everything and that includes the finances. After she knew that her husband bought the car for her father-in-law, she felt left out. However, she did not complain it to her husband but she shared it with me. No matter what, the car was bought, so for her, it did not make sense to bring the issue up again. She felt sad but if she brings the issue up, their relationship will end up in argument. She prefers to be the one feeling unsatisfied than having their relationship having issue. Personally, I wouldn’t be able to live with the issue without discussing it.
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hello,
One thing i have learned from observing others relationships is that they are communicative structures that are developed and agreed upon by the two in that particular commitment and to all other outside it may seem wrong or unfair but the two involved may find find fulfillment in different ways.
For example, my mom and dad have been divorced since i can remember and they both have re-married which i have grown to except. but for some time i hated my stepdad with a passion because i felt like he did not treat my mom fair as far as the money issues. It always seemed like she would get paid and give her check to him to make all the decisions which I hated. So one day i asked her why she did that and she explain to me that she was bad with money so she agreed to let him do the budgeting and she never questioned him about it . furthermore, she said she got fulfillment because she didnt have to stress about money and she was happy about their financial achievements.
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